RECOVERING SELF-ESTEEM

Issues concerning on the orgasm is mentioned as a kind of Sunnah Rasul ( Messenger ) for some people, that is something not to be done, but it will  bless those who are willing to do so voluntarily, willingly, and of course, legitimate. Making Love, people said, is indeed beautiful, but secrecy are covered the beauty of it and only known by the parties involved. As privacy rights was explored for financial gain, culture hysteria soared together with it . We are, as a common creature, fail to naively welcome trivia things to approach and full our head with some other ways. At one point the brain perhaps would stop to do its job, thinking, as a result of overloaded imaginations. Under conditions of a sudden stupidity, they thought they could reduce the burden mind by forced their desire blindly to anyone.

Recently, the Indonesian National Police has released the latest data over the rape cases on 2012 which reached 267 181 cases, a decrease compared to the year 2011 of 274,180 cases (Liputan6.com 10/2), and has reached 25 cases during January 2013. This sort of behavior which is an early symptom of culture shock syndrome, commonly experienced by people in developing countries, has resulted number of significant side effects. There were a raising numbers osf unexpected pregnancy in each region, the dispute which caused by ‘siri’  marriages ( a marriage which not registered in local authority ) also increased, following the divorce and also rape, victims were adults, adolescents, and even children. Publication on news rape case previously is more like  revealed the dark side of human beings, a concession of the human inability to defeat the evil that dwells in his own mind.

Profanity and penalties are much more vile, as has been said Arswendo Atmowiloto writers, rapist will also get raped when they were serving time in prison, as they lived together with his fellow inmates his friends. Prison is the last place on earth you don’t want to go, where the price of human being stripped to the slaves, either right to meet the family and loved ones. The memory of the family will stay remain deeply in the souls of the exiles. Rape is considered as a threat over their mother, wife, girlfriend, sister and daughter, a reason to excuse their torturing over rapist in prison.

Failed System
We may boast ourselves as the State with the largest area of ​​islands in the world over its hundreds variety of customs and cultural norms, widely known for the nation’s hospitality and uphold the norms of decency, as well as a country with the largest number of adherents of Islam in the world - that teaches good manners and attitudes for all believers. With all those ideal expectations, there shouldn’t be rejection among us to carry a big responsibility imposed on our shoulders,  hope of creating a more brighter and greater generation of individuals to establish a better environment.

However, the economic crisis and poverty has thrown us so deeply, and we no longer think twice about the meaning of peace ever since, other than terms of financial adequacy. Both parents worked hard to raise money to buy some food and replacing their love to the children with some pocket money, private cars, the latest gadgets, and the number one quality school. So do not be surprised if our days lately crowded by immature adults, who have no sense of sensitivity toward others. Such people may be succeed in their own fields, but instead of bring prosperity to others they named success as a based to their savage actions without rethink of its consequences.

When an adult human being transformed into a monster as his misbehave doings, the questions to ask would be : who are his parents ? What kind of family they have? How bad are his parents, so he could not understand the line between right and wrong? Yes, indeed. They have been raised down to a failed family system.  So where is our State which should not only be in charge of the welfare of the people in terms of materials, but also to ensure the children’s safety and security under the spread of social diseases and deviant behavior as early as possible? Is this a sign over failed-State for allowing high-cost economy rolling freely, forcing hundreds thousands of mothers leaving their lonely children away for some money.

Risen from the Grave
The rape victim was formerly normal humans, but something inside her snatched away and deeply buried soon as she had the tragedy. Such a great impecration against rape, must be accepted as  the logical consequences of his actions, but it will never be able to heal the bleedings inside.  No, it’s not about the lost of virginity. But no doubt they lost their self esteem for a quite long term, perhaps most of their lives.   

 The lost of their selves-esteem, followed by a very low respects for themselves, are some of the psychological impact experienced by victims of rape. These symptoms can lead to a number of further problems such as increased depression due to lower self-esteem, pessimism about the future, eliminated all forms of communication and interaction with outsiders, the loss of confidence on the opposite sex, suicidal attempts and involved herself into prostitution.

 This is what actually needs to be addressed in a larger portion, than arguing upon which sides to be blamed for pulled the sexual violence, the evil rapist within its animal desires, or victims who have accidentally raised the rapist’s wild desires against her, which is under criticized by the public as patriarchism appears to bring nothing to solve problems. Last but not least, the State should be able to provide trauma counseling services at low or no cost, especially for the indigence families. The counseling should necessarily monitor the victims’ recuperation, to ensure that they are psychologically stable and ready to move on again. The role of the State and concern for the victims is essential as a first step to regain pride that has been torn apart, until the victims were able to drive the vehicle back on its original track. (swastantika)